Tuesday, January 15, 2013

What a Report Card does not say....

I will say that this special needs mommy, hates report card day!  Why?  Because it does not show a complete picture of my child.  I feel it is like an IEP meeting where all the therapist take time telling me what my child does not know!  I just want to scream "But what about all she has learned?"!!!  Report Cards are like that too me, they just tell me that she does not know this, this, this, this, and this!  Like I did not know she was behind.  My eyes are not blind, I know she is not with her friends in her class, but....

What it does not say is how hard she works daily to hear and understand all the sounds and words thrown at her.  It does not tell me the hours a week she spends in some form of therapy.  It does not tell me incredible amount of passion she has for school, for learning, for her friends and for life in general!  Report cards do not tell about the many afternoons she spends at the kitchen table working on writing her letters, sight words and numbers.  That piece of paper does not tell you about how incredibly hard it is for her to walk down the long hallway to her room, to the gym or the lunchroom.  It leaves out that last year she barely spoke and now she speaks in small sentences and can repeat most words and sounds she hears when she is able to focus and hear clearly.  I really wish that piece of paper told of her laughter and creative spirit that leads to many dance shows in my livingroom in costumes of all crazy types.

I know in my head report cards are important to see growth in a unified way, but my heart hurts everytime I pull it out of her folder.  But tonight as I sit and wonder if the ice storm will really hit my area, I will remind myself that paper is not who my child is....she is so much more.

Sorry for the ramblings tonight but sometimes words just have to be expressed. 

3 comments:

Katherine said...

She is so much more than a report card! I meant to send you a message the other day bc I saw her all bundled up walking into the school in the morning - she just looked precious! She is adorable and had such a sweet spirit. She has come a LONG way in a little amount of time too!

My Mom filled life! said...

<3 You are absolutely right! A report card only shows 1 angle when we know Emma has so many! She has made HUGE strides in so many areas this past year! Staying focused, effort made, obstacles overcome & her dedication alone are all worth a big fat A+
She is so lucky to have a mother like you in her corner.
Thanks for sharing.
Brandy

Rachel said...

Thank you ladies for your kind comments! Emma is my hero!